Gentle Persuasion

Our twins are distinct individuals, and while Sandy and I want to provide for them equally, they require different approaches from us. Trey Davey has more of an artist’s demeanor. He is talented, passionate, demonstrative and insecure. The boy that we once nicknamed the pleaser has evolved into a rebel by refusing to participate or even cooperate most of the time. If he is into something like trains, he is into it heart and soul. Suggesting he set down his trains for dinner or bedtime will often evoke a dramatic emotional reaction. He doesn’t like change and won’t willingly try new things. First we tried competition with his brother as motivation, but found that ineffective. What works best for us is a little one on one time with him and a gentle nudge of encouragement towards areas outside his comfort zone where his talents will take him far.